Monday, December 27, 2010

New camcorder + dog lover = Dog video

I must have been on the nice list this year because for Christmas I got a new camcorder and a tripod, which will come in awful handy in producing my videos.  I'm so excited that I'll have 2 cameras now so I won't have to do a bunch of stopping and starting to get different shots anymore.  Of course I had to try it out, so since I have 4 dogs who are my "babies", they were the subjects of my first video with my new camera.  They definitely hammed it up too.  Here they are:

Casey - Shetland Sheepdog
Tucker & Tanner - Papillons
Bailey - Cavalier King Charles Spaniel

I'm looking forward to shooting the first spanking video with it this year with Rich Spankman towards the end of January.  It should be a good one!

Also I wanted to mention that I had the opportunity to be included in Richard Windsor's Christmas Show this year.  He put together a great show and you can listen to it by going here.  You can hear a very brief clip of me singing right before the 2nd song.  :)

Monday, December 20, 2010

Almost the end of another year

So Christmas is creeping up on me and I have no shopping done yet.  I'm feeling sick and seem to be coming down with some kind of cold:  sore throat, headache, fever stuff.  Today I had lunch with a friend and now I'm back home just laying around hoping that this cold will just go away before it gets worse.

Here is a pic of me and one of my dogs, Bailey.  This is what I woke up to a couple days ago, him wrapped around my head snoring - and man does he snore!  He makes it difficult to get out of bed because he's so cute all cuddled up against me.  He is a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel.  I know you enjoy seeing my lovely morning self.  We all look amazing when we get up don't we?  Haha.  I am so not a morning person!

Me & Bailey
I have Christmas get togethers with family and the December 31st will find me flying to NYC to spend time with some spanko friends.  I won't make it to Times Square on New Years Eve though because the New Yorkers don't want to fight the crowds, so I'll just be at a small party.  On January 8th I'll fly from NYC to L.A. to do some filming with Clare Fonda, and then back home on the 11th.

I'll be accepting session appointments during my stay in NYC & L.A. so if you'd be interested in having a session with me please fill out the online application form.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

POLL - Do you enjoy Alicia best as Top or bottom in videos?

As you all know, I started out as a bottom, began switching, and then I took my bottoming side into just my personal life and now Top at parties, events, and professionally.  But with the videos I still do both, and actually just based upon the opportunities that I've had in this realm, I seem to bottom in the videos a whole lot more than I Top.  I'd like to do more Topping videos, and I will, but it does seem that so far anyways I've gotten alot more chances to bottom.

I'd be interested in hearing what you all think.  Which is your favorite?  Watching me Top or bottom in the videos?  If you care to, please cast your vote to the left of this posting.  If you haven't yet seen me Top and/or bottom in videos you can watch short preview clips of all my videos by going to SpankingTube.

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Mister Spankman's Neighborhood

The newest clips in my video store are a new series that I have titled, "Mister Spankman's Neighborhood", which features me getting spanked by video newcomer Rich Spankman.  I met Rich through the KC Spanks Club which he runs out of Kansas City, Missouri.

The premise of this series is that Rich and I are neighbors, and my younger sister has been placed in my care and he has a daughter that is friends with her.  The problem is that my sister constantly gets his daughter in trouble and is a bad influence and Rich thinks it's about time that I started taking responsibility for her discipline instead of letting her run amuck.

Part 1 - Rich stops by Alicia's house to have a discussion with her about her sister's behavior and Alicia's lack of responsibility for it.  Alicia is asked to consent to a spanking for her irresponsibility and she agrees to it.  She is then made to fetch her dining room chair and bring it into the living room for her spanking.  Rich takes her over his knee and gives her a couple swats over her jeans.

Part 2 - The hand spanking continues in this clip with more over Alicia's jeans and then over her panties.  Then it is time for Rich to "get to the bottom" of this, so he peels Alicia underwear down and the spanking intensity increases.

Part 3 - The spanking continues and the camera angle switches to an above shot looking down, and then a close up shot of Alicia's bottom.  More hand spanking in this one, and then Rich introduces the totally wicked hairbrush.

Part 4 - The spanking is 'almost' over, but first Alicia must kneel down on the fireplace to receive the last of it with a wooden spatula.  

Please won't you be my neighbor?  
Ummm, I'm not sure I want to be your neighbor Mister Spankman.  I want outta this neighborhood, anybody want to trade houses with me?  LOL!

Monday, November 29, 2010

I'm an official plane crash survivor

On Thanksgiving morning, I had something really big to be thankful life.  Before I continue, I need to say that absolutely everybody that was on the plane, including myself, walked away from the crash unharmed!

We were headed to visit relatives for the day on Thanksgiving in my uncle's twin engine, 6 seater plane. The airport that we had to land at was kind of a rinky-dink little landing strip and nobody was on the ground that morning to correspond with on the radio  As we were beginning to descend, the front wind shield completely iced over in just a matter of seconds.  He had to land the plane by looking out the side window with my Aunt's help watching the other side.  My Aunt hollered out that he wasn't lined up with the runway from her viewpoint and he corrected.  By the time we touched down we were in the middle of the runway with not enough time to stop, and so the plane went onto the uneven grass for about 200 feet before finally coming to a stop in a small ditch.  The undercarriage of the plane was destroyed, but everybody inside was completely fine.

We were very, very, very lucky that it ended as it did.  Many things could have gone wrong and it may not have worked out with such a very happy ending.  I'm a little shook up over it still, especially this past Friday I was of no use whatsoever and did absolutely nothing all day long except for going to the casino for a little slot playing to help ease my mind.  I'm doing fine now and am kind of glad that I'll be getting on a plane in less than 2 weeks so I don't have much time to simmer with any fears of flying.  This will be a commercial aircraft, and I think my days of flying small planes are definitely done and over with.

I took the pic below with my iPhone right after I exited the plane.  It doesn't really show the damage to the undercarriage from the angle, but it was as close as I ever wanted to get to that plane again!

*Note to the plane/flying aficionados:  I photoshopped the FAA
registration number off the side of the plane in the interest of privacy.  :)

And now for more positive and upbeat news:

Saturday I did a video shoot with a newcomer.  Rich Spankman is definitely not new to the spanking community but he is to the video world!  He is local to Kansas City and in fact runs the KC Spanks Club.  He Topped me in the video and plays the role of my neighbor.  He brought alot of good verbal stuff to the video and he has such a cute little accent.  I came so close to postponing this shoot because of how I was feeling after the plane crash, but I'm glad I went through with it because it was alot of fun.  I'll be posting more on this new video in the days to come.  I can't wait to finish editing it!

A dialog/scolding scene from the video
Rich Spankman,  after shooting a spanking scene.
I think he was having a good time, don't you?

On that note, LOL, I am currently looking for more local people who are interested in being in my spanking films as either a Top or bottom, male or female, 18+, all shapes and sizes.  If you live in or near Northeast Kansas and are interested in being considered for a video please contact me, I'd love to hear from you!

Sunday, November 14, 2010

SCONY Spanking Weekend in the Mountains - Day 3

Saturday - Day 3

This day is always the most activity packed day of the Weekend.  St. Margaret's Academy takes place right after breakfast.  The Academy is a school-type atmosphere where short fun and informative classes are taught and the bottoms or "students" are watched closely by the Tops/staff.  If a student misbehaves, s/he is given a discipline referral which allows the student to pick from a list of discipline to be received, such as:  corner time, extra assignments, and of course spanking.  I functioned as a Top during the school and handed out a couple referrals, one to a student who attempted to give me a pen that shocked.  I did not fall for it because I had pulled that same trick on a teacher over a year ago!  He chose the wrong person to fool with that one.  I took him back and gave him a good paddling.

The classes change up each Weekend, and one of the classes this time was Debate.  The topic was, 'Should spanking be outsourced?', and it was Tops against bottoms.  Now even though I consider myself to be a lifestyle bottom, I was considered a Top for the debate since I was functioning as a teacher in the Academy.  All the Tops gathered to discuss our strategy and appoint 5 people to speak on our behalf.  From the get go, I knew I didn't want to be one of the speakers because I am absolutely horrible at debating- the worst.  But somehow I ended up as a chosen one and up in front of everybody.  As my turn came I began to realize that some of the other speakers had used what I was going to say and began to get worried.  Then it was my turn and I had pretty much absolutely nothing.  I stuttered over my words and it was a disaster!  So needless to say, this caused a tie, with the concurrence that I needed to be spanked for "throwing the Tops under the bus".  Now I wish I could say that I did that on purpose because it would make me look much better than to just admit that I really did just crash and burn.  Even though I can act & perform in front of people I so cannot speak in front of them.  After all was said and done, 2 people spanked me for this "offense", and I have to admit that for the rest of my time I was all Topped out and really only felt like bottoming from there on out.  But hey, there's no shame in that!

There was a couple hours free time that afternoon but during part of that Mr. Camden marched me into the woods for my exercise punishment for missing way too many sessions.  He walked me around the pond and I had to lay over his lap on a bench for a short spanking.  Then walked some more and I had to lower my pants and lean against a tree for the rest of my punishment, which was a hand spanking followed by a strapping with his belt.

After dinner was the final evening party of the weekend and a couple of us ladies put on our corsets that we'd bought from Lady Sabrina.  I even did some more shopping and bought a small flogger with faux fur and leather, which is very good for sensual play.

Speaking of the little flogger that I purchased... It got me in a bit of trouble!  I was instructed by another Top to go deal with a particular bottom who had been complaining.  I decided to be silly with it, and told  the bottom to bend over while I used the flogger, pictured above, to tan his backside...not!  I was doing this over his pants while the Top watched, came over to me, pulled a chair over and told me to spank him right or else I was going to get it.  I "spanked" him a little harder, but seeing as how this implement is really not meant to inflict pain of any sort, it wasn't hurting him and also did not satisfy the Top who was getting ready to spank me.  So he pulls me right over his lap, yanks my skirt up, and gives me a very hard hand spanking for disobeying him.  All this was done in front of everybody, and when it was over I was told to go spank the bottom the right way.  Which I did of course!

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Where've I been?

I know, I know...  It's been 3 weeks since my last blog post, so what've I been up too?  Well, let me start by saying that my disciplinarian did in fact punish me for not keeping up on my blog entries.  I kinda stopped in the middle of the SCONY spanking mountain reports and I'll continue that soon.

I've been up to kick-starting my vanilla acting career.  With all the spanking related traveling that I've been doing over the spring, summer, and fall, I hadn't had much time to give attention to what I've always dreamed of doing- and that is becoming a film and commercial actress.  I've started taking film acting classes which has been fun, insightful, and opened up networking opportunities for me.  Through the class I found out about an audition this Friday for ballroom dance couples to be in a ballroom scene in a feature film.  I'm excited to do this and really hope I get cast as a dancer, but if not I have decided to participate as an 'extra' so that I can at least get the experience of being on a movie set.  I've started submitting my headshot and resume to talent agents in the hopes of being represented and having more audition opportunities.

In just a couple weeks, I'll be filming a spanking video with a local spanko.  I'll be getting spanked in this one and I'm super glad to have found a few people in Kansas who are willing to appear in my videos.  BTW, if you are located in the Kansas area and are interested in being in a spanking video, whether Top or bottom, please contact me directly, I'd love to hear from you.

I will be in Phoenix Arizona in a week to attend Miss Chris' Sun Valley Spankos party.  While I'm there I'll be accepting private sessions and also have the amazing opportunity to conduct double and/or triple sessions with Miss Chris & Jenni Mack!  There also might be opportunities for some video shoots while I'm out there.  I'm really looking forward to this trip!  If you are interested in a private session with either me alone or with Miss Chris and/or Jenni, please fill out a session application.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

SCONY Spanking Weekend in the Mountains - Day 2

Friday - Day 2

I slept in this day because I was up till pretty early in the morning.  More people had already filtered in by the time I got up and around.  3:00 was the official kick-off to the weekend down in the lounge area where an art class took place along with an ice breaker game.  This marked the start of St. Margaret's Academy where the bottoms that choose, can be the "students" and the Tops are "staff", and if the students misbehave the staff has the right to give them a discipline referral.  This lasted a couple hours and then it was dinner time.  We all eat together in the on-site restaurant that served us buffet style food, and during dessert the males and females were split up and Ms. Margaret gave a talk to each group separately about the ins and outs of the spanking fetish, protocol, and pointers on how best to have a good time.  After this everyone dispersed to freshen up and head back down to the lounge for the evening party.

When I got down to the lounge my eye caught a bunch of corsets hanging on a rack for sale by Lady Sabrina of My Lady's Toys.  She had a vendor table set up of all kinds of goodies:  spanking implements, panties, corsets, and toys.  I've been admiring the look of corsets for some time now but had never even tried one on.  I found a black one with a flowery pattern and blueish strips that I liked and Lady Sabrina allowed me to try it on.  I gotta say that corsets are not the most comfortable of things but they sure look pretty!  I ended up purchasing it and can't wait to wear it when I go to Arizona in November.

During the party I was able to spank several bottoms and even got spanked myself, LOL.  Mr. Camden ratted me out to another male Top that I frequently play with, and I got led back to one of the privacy cubicles and spanked, not once, but twice because I wouldn't tell Mr. Camden something I was supposed to say after the first spanking.  Of course they tell me that Tops don't tattle, they just "share information"....whatever.  Who believes that line?  Anybody?  Anybody?  Going once, going twice....

The party doesn't have an ending time, people just gradually leave as they get tired and head up to their rooms.  Once I headed up I was spanked and put to bed by Mr. Camden.

Monday, October 18, 2010

SCONY Spanking Weekend in the Mountains - Day 1

Thursday - Day 1

The Spanking Weekend didn't officially start until Friday Oct. 8th, but the option is extended to people to come early if they choose, and I always like to come on Thursday.  I flew into NYC late morning and my disciplinarian, Mr. Camden, picked me up with his van.  There were already two other ladies with him, and there was one more due in to ride with us.  While waiting for the last one to arrive, we parked alongside a curb in between terminals and waited while Mr. Camden rearranged our luggage.  I don't remember all the details other than I was feeling particularly "bottomy" and I was teasing Mr. Camden and he threatened to spank me right there at the airport.  But I figured this was just an empty threat and there was no way he'd actually do it, but boy was I wrong!  He brought me over his lap, right there with the side door open, my head sticking out of the van and he spanked my bottom good.  I was laughing hard and so was he and right in the middle of this fiasco, a man walked by on the sidewalk.  Apparently he just kind of looked out of the corner of his eye and kept walking by faster.  This was quite a start for the weekend, and we weren't even on the mountain yet!

It was about a two hour drive to get to the resort where the event is held and we did NOT get there without Mr. Camden having to pull the van off to the side of the road to administer spankings.  You see, the "problem" was that he was driving 47 miles an hour on a highway with a posted speed of 70mph.  His excuse was that with all the people and luggage that we had, the tires were over capacity and therefore he had to drive sloooooooowwww.  Never mind that we were passed by squirrels, deer, and amish people driving a Pinto.  My good friend was kindly informing him of the vehicle speed every couple of seconds, thanks to my GPS.  When Mr. Camden figured out where she was getting the speed from, he told me to turn the GPS off, but I refused.  This continued for a little while longer until he'd finally had enough and pulled over on the shoulder.  He spanked her first and then it was my turn for disobeying him.  He spanked me pretty hard and scolded pretty firmly as well.  So much so that the other van inhabitants thought he was really mad at me and felt sorry for me, LOL!  They'd just never witnessed me getting a discipline spanking before and it must have been a little different than what they are used to receiving.

Once at the resort, we were greeted by Ms. Margaret, Mr. Ryder, and a bunch of our other friends that were already there.  We got all settled in, ate dinner together, and then went down to the lounge where we sang karaoke.  A bunch of us female bottoms got together and sang, "We're Not Gonna Take It", by Twisted Sister.  It was a hit, the Tops got a kick out of it, but our stance of not taking it anymore didn't last long because several of us got spanked right away, including me.  Then right before bed, Mr. Camden dealt with me about one of my several outstanding issues that needed addressed.

Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Final 3 clips of "Anthea's House Rules" are up!

I've finally finished editing the final 3 scenes of "Anthea's House Rules" and they are now available on my website,  In these clips, you'll find a mouthsoaping, a very firm hairbrush spanking, and also a rulering.

Part 4 - This clip opens with Anthea being scolded for cursing during church.  She is given a mouth soaping and is spanked while standing up.  Then she is marched downstairs for a thorough hairbrush spanking.

Part 5 - Time for Anthea's bedtime spanking for cursing at church.  Ms. Panettiere gives her a firm hand spanking over her pajama bottoms, then white panties, and finally bare bottom.  At the end Anthea sits on Ms. Panettiere's lap and they hug.

Part 6 - It is past Anthea's curfew and Ms. Panettiere is up late worried.  Anthea comes home dressed very unladylike and she is immediately bent over to get swatted with a ruler.  Then she is marched downstairs to get a bare bottomed hand spanking.

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Back to the States

Long time no blog!  Well, I'm back to the States and beginning to recover from jet lag, but I'm not yet back home.  I'm writing this from a friend's house in NY and will be back to Kansas on Wednesday evening.  I enjoyed my time in London and it was my very first trip overseas.  I arrived there last Tuesday afternoon, look a nap, ate dinner, then went to bed again- totally fun first day, I know.  Wednesday I had time to sightsee and I had great weather for it.  I hopped on one of those double decker tourist buses which drove around all the attractions and I took a bunch of pics from the bus.  Thursday & Friday were video shoots for a private collector (unfortunately these won't be released to the public though) and I got to meet some wonderful people.  Friday evening I was really feeling the jet lag because I ate dinner twice!  Once during London dinner time and again a little after midnight which would have been dinner time back home.  I was hungry both times and couldn't sleep, so hey what can I say, I just went with it, LOL.  Saturday was the main day that I had set aside to see private sessions and again met some great people.  Finally on Saturday night I slept really good and didn't wake up till 11am the next morning.  I hadn't slept all that great the rest of my stay probably just due to the jet lag I think.  So I had just enough time to pack up and get checked out of the hotel and to the airport.

I always seem to notice kind of "off the wall" types of things.  What sticks out to me is that everybody over there seemed to smell really good, especially the cologne that nearly all the men wore.  Then we have the funny U-turns that many of the drivers made.  What made these funny to me was that they would turn around in the middle of the road with traffic coming both ways.  Then some of the drivers didn't quite get their car turned all the way around so they were then facing the sidewalk blocking traffic and had to put it in reverse to get completely turned around.  This is one thing I greatly regret not taking a picture of because it is hard to explain it without a visual.  But in the States, U-turns are normally only allowed at intersections and it would be unheard of to block both directions of traffic while attempting the turn.  I just thought it was comical- I know, weird sense of humor.  :)

I just cleaned up my travel schedule, removing the trips that have already taken place and boy is it pretty bare now!  Nothing planned after October.  I think I'll take that opportunity to focus on getting head shoots done for mainstream acting and also getting the web design business off the ground.

Saturday, September 11, 2010


Today is September 11th, and I've been thinking about and remembering the tragedy that occurred 9 years ago today.  At the time it happened I was at work, sitting in my cubicle, when I heard my co-workers gasp and shout out.  I stood up and walked to the gathering around a lady's tiny television screen where we silently watched the second plane hit the South tower of the World Trade Center.  Nothing but silence, astonishment, and disbelief.  I cried at the time it happened and I'm crying right now while writing this entry.  Even though I was over 1,000 miles away from NYC, had never visited there and knew absolutely no one there at the time, I was deeply affected and my world stopped while I watched from my tv and listened to the radio and experienced the rush of a plethora of emotions along with the rest of America. 
Now that it has been 9 years since these events, I still think about it, especially this time of year.  Because of the spanking community I now know several New Yorkers and one of these happens to be a very close friend of mine who was directly involved in the recovery efforts.  This person has a difficult time every year around the anniversary, and I wish that I could do something, anything, to take away the pain and sadness that is still felt by this individual.  There are many, many others who still feel and experience the after effects of this unspeakable event, and my heart goes out to all of these people today.  I'm thinking about them and praying for them.

I've never been prouder of my country than I was that day.  I was glued to the news from my apartment in Kansas for several weeks following.  What I saw was tragedy, but also unity.  Politics were gone and in its place was compassion.  There were many heros that day and the days following.

I'm never gonna forget.

Friday, September 10, 2010

"Church Discipline" video released on my website!

I did a trade shoot with Sarah Gregory while we were both at the Crimson Moon party at the end of July, and this is one of the videos we made together.

The idea for "Church Discipline" actually came from my own fantasy stemming from a real-life experience with the Pastor's wife at the church I was attending at the time.  I was 19 years old and had this super big mommy craving at the time.  I didn't get everything that I believed I should get from my own mom so as far back as middle school I began seeking out teachers and other female authority figures to provide me with affection, affirmation, attention, and discipline.

So in comes this particular Pastor's wife, who recognized that I needed a momma and endeavored to provide me with some of the things that I missed out on and longed for.  I would do things to get her attention and usually it was negative attention that I acquired but that was just alright with me.  She scolded me on many, many occasions and that alone really gets into the discipline headspace that I have.  Usually after I'd been scolded I would come home and write as many details down about it as I remembered and then I'd read it over and over again.  She had 6 children of her own, five of which were daughters, and I fell right in between the ages of her two oldest children.  She often told me she loved me and that I was special, and gave me lots of hugs.  All things I desired from a mother-figure.

On one certain occasion, after a church service, I was upset with her about something and used curse words as I was talking to her right in the church lobby.  Right then and there she got "The Look" in her eyes and very sternly told me, "You need to be spanked!"  Let me tell you, that certainly stopped me dead in my tracks.  I was a little scared that she'd actually do it but at the same time really hoping that she would take me inside her office and put me over her knee.  Of course this never happened but I've fantasized about it more times than I can count.  After this incident there were several times it would come up in conversation where she would tell me I needed to be spanked or given a couple swats.  I also wished that her and the Pastor would invite me to live with them for a time and treat me just as one of their own daughters.  I touched on this in Sarah and I's video.

Sarah Gregory and I reenacted my fantasy in a reversed sort of fashion, meaning I played the role of the Pastor's wife and Sarah played "Me".  I thoroughly enjoyed filming this with her and felt that much of my fantasy was able to be portrayed.  Towards the end of the film Sarah cried real tears and I was able to hold her and comfort her while she cried.  Very good and I love it when real emotion and tears are captured on video.

The video starts out with a good scolding because I caught her at the church dance conducting herself very inappropriately and dancing in a provocative manner.  I tell her she needs to be spanked and has needed it for a long time, so I lead her over my knee to deliver a very thorough hand spanking over her skirt, then panties, and bare-bottomed.  Finally she gets a good spanking with the very same hairbrush that I use to spank my daughters with.  She is told that she will be disciplined just like one of my daughters from here on out anytime that she is disrespectful or misbehaves.  I also tell her that I'll be taking her clothes shopping to get something more appropriate for her to wear, and if she wants to she can come stay with me for awhile.  This seems to touch a tender place in her and she begins to cry - this is what she's craved for a very long time.

Please visit to purchase the video clips for this film that is 15 minutes in its entirety.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Preparing to head out to Shadow Lane

Early Thursday morning I will board the plane to fly to Vegas for my 2nd Shadow Lane party.  I'm getting pretty excited for it - meeting people, getting to see friends, and having fun.  It is hard to believe that last year at this time was when I started to get my feet wet with spanking videos.  I met Clare Fonda as I was helping with the setup of the Scony vendor table, and that was when she said that she'd love to shoot with me sometime.  I remember feeling so excited for this opportunity, but not sure where all it would take me.  I've made quite a bit of strides since then:  appearing in several films with Clare, shooting with Chelsea Pfeiffer, Kelly Payne, Ten, Sarah Gregory, Lily Starr, and Mike Billa.

As for shooting at Shadow Lane this year, Richard Windsor will be doing an interview with me and I'll shoot with MikeNV (Fetlife tag).  I may also have the opportunity to shoot with others as time and the opportunities present.  Looking forward to a great time!

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Safewords during a punishment spanking

We all seem to come to a consensus when it comes to the use of safewords for non-disciplinary spankings. Generally everyone agrees that there should be safewords available for playful, sensual, and roleplay scenes, but when it comes to real-life punishment spankings there is a, for lack of a better word, 'debate' over whether it is acceptable to allow the bottom/spankee the use of safewords.

As most of you know, I have a disciplinarian who punishes me for real-life issues, and then as a professional Top, I frequently see people for real punishment issues.  Here is where I stand in this "great debate":

I believe in the availability of safewords at all times, and here is why.  When it comes to a true punishment spanking, there has to be trust with both the Top and bottom.  The Top must trust the bottom that a safeword will only be used if and only if the bottom is in some sort of danger, be it physical, mental, or emotional.  They have to know that the bottom will take the punishment seriously and not just safeword to get out of it if it hurts too much.

The bottom has to trust that the Top will not cause any lasting damage and that the Top has the best view of what is going on with the spankee's bottom.  Based upon what has been negotiated in the disciplinary relationship ahead of time, say that bruises are ok but broken skin is a hard limit.  The bottom must trust that the Top has the best view of their backside and he/she will stop or adjust if it becomes apparent that the skin is getting ready to break.  I don't believe that a hard-limit should ever be crossed, even for a punishment spanking.

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Poll - Kate Winslet look-alike?

How about a fun poll?  I've been told here and there by random people that I resemble Kate Winslet.  I'm not sure that I really see it myself, so I thought it'd be fun to do a side-by-side comparison and take a vote.  What do you think?  Place your vote to the left of this posting.  :)

Thursday, August 12, 2010

August L.A. Trip

My L.A. trip is winding down and I fly back home tomorrow evening.

Photo courtesy of Clare Fonda

I shot for 3 of Clare Fonda's sites while I was out here: Spanked Sweeties, Girl Spanks Girl, and My Spanking Roommate. Exclusive Education 5 will begin airing the first week in September on Girl Spanks Girl. In this epic film, I was the new teacher who spanked all the girls along with Lana & Clare Fonda, then at the end the girls get their revenge on us!

Photo courtesy of Clare Fonda

I also held a few professional discipline sessions. For those who don't know, I began accepting applications from people interested in me Topping them, and have been conducting professional sessions since January. What I enjoy most about this is I can meet with people who are not able to make it to spanking events for what ever reason, and I like to fulfill their spanking fantasies (as long as it is non-sexual). Click here to read more about my sessions, and apply for a session here.

Also, with the help of The Camera Man, I was able to get my video clips compressed so that they will upload onto clips4sale, so this will soon be another venue that you will have to purchase my clips.  I just need to do some boring paperwork type stuff with that site and then I will be able to accept orders.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Cursing & other unladylike language

Cursing is one of the things that my disciplinarian is working with me about. It wasn't really an issue that I felt needed to be addressed in our relationship, but he decided that it needed to be and added it to my list of rules. I've been getting better and better at this, especially since I resigned from my old job a couple of months back. I found that the somewhat "hostile" work environment was causing me to be really angry and cursing was an outlet that I used to relieve some of the agitation that I was feeling. Now that the agitant is gone, I find that I only curse when stupid stuff happens, such as my stepping on the bottom of my strapless dress and nearly ripping it off myself on the way to the mailbox. My neighbors probably would have enjoyed that one but I didn't care to give them a show.

Last night, I used some words that I didn't really think of as curse words, but my disciplinarian thought otherwise. I used the word "crap" and "pissed off" while talking with him and boy did I catch it for that. He made it clear to me that those were not such things that should be uttered from the mouth of a lady and that I am not to use those words again. As punishment, I had to turn on my webcam for a punishment self-spanking, spend 15 minutes in the corner, and was assigned an essay to write about how unladylike cursing is and to make a list of words to use instead.

I know that soap will be in my future if I curse again, and I absolutely HATE soap. So much so that it is pretty near to being a hard limit for me, but not quite. This evening I have to get busy on my essay because it is due to be turned in before I go to bed.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

New Video - "Anthea's House Rules"

I'm excited to be able to bring to you my very first full-length video production!  It was filmed on Saturday, July 17th, right here in Kansas.  Ten flew out from Jersey late Friday night and we started filming at 10am the next morning and wrapped up around 5pm.  I wrote the script but we just took the general idea and lines and improvised instead of memorizing it line for line.  

Ms. Panettiere.................Alicia Panettiere

The film opens with Anthea and Ms. Panettiere having a talk about the adjustment to the recent marriage of Ms. Panettiere to Anthea's father.  There hasn't been another female in the house since Anthea's mother passed away several years ago and she has gotten away with slacking on household chores and being disrespectful to Ms. Panettiere for far too long.  Therefore, rules are laid out, chores are assigned, and discipline is discussed.  As you can guess, spanking will be used as the punishment if Anthea misbehaves.  

The day after the talk, finds Anthea addressing Ms. Panettiere by her first name which promptly lands her downstairs getting a bare bottom spanking for her disrespect.  

She is later given a reminder spanking and sent to bed early so she can think about what she has done.  Ms. Panettiere lovingly tucks Anthea into bed and gives her a goodnight kiss.

Sunday morning, Ms. Panettiere finds out from the Sunday school teacher that Anthea cursed at a fellow classmate during church.  The scene opens with Anthea already attired in her disciplinary outfit and receiving a mouth soaping along with several good swats from Ms. Panettiere's hand.  

A hairbrush spanking follows this, and Anthea really feels the heat from the wood, as her body language obviously shows.  She almost jumps off Ms. Panettiere's lap!

Later that evening Anthea receives her bedtime spanking and some cuddle time from her step-mother, Ms. Panettiere.

Later that week, Anthea is out way past curfew and Ms. Panettiere is up late worried about her step-daughter.  When Anthea finally arrives home, she is surprised to find a very distraught Ms. Panettiere waiting for her.  Not only is she late, but she's also dressed very inappropriately for a lady.  Anthea is bent over and given several smacks with the ruler, and then taken downstairs for a very thorough hand spanking.  

This is a 6 part series, with clips one and two already available on my video store.  Watch for the rest of the clips and coming soon is the full-length DVD!  You may watch a 4 minute preview clip on the home page of my website.  The entire film will have a running time of well over an hour.

I hope you enjoy!

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

I launched my website! - belated

I suppose I never officially announced the launch of my website.  LOL!

The reason I waited was because I wasn't quite happy with the home page design.  You see, I can be quite the perfectionist and it probably would have taken me a couple more years to get it out there, if not for a little nudging from my disciplinarian.  He said that I really needed to go ahead and get it up so people had a way to contact me if they wanted to, and that I could tweak it whenever I wanted.  So in the interest of not getting spanked for taking too long, I went ahead and put it out there a couple of weeks ago.

But today I completed the redesign of my home page.  So now that I am "happier" with the way it looks, I am officially launching it!

On my site you can find my travel schedule, some articles I have written, a contact page, info about the discipline sessions I provide, an application for a discipline session with me, links page, and a video store.  Currently I only have clips in the store but eventually I will have the full-length DVDs available as soon as I figure out why I'm unable to burn them to disc.  I seem to be having some sort of computer issue right now.

I just wanted to say a quick thanks to those who have already been to my website, contacted me, bought clips and/or applied for a session.  I appreciate it!

P.S.  If anyone needs a website designed and would be interested in me doing it for you, please contact me and I'd be happy to discuss it with you.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

The Cameraman has a blog!

Clare Fonda's cameraman has joined the blogging world!  His blog is entitled, "Spanking View" and can be found at  He's been blogging since the beginning of this month and has quite a few entries out there already.  Spanking View offers a unique insight into the spanking shoots of Clare Fonda Productions because this guy is right in on the action with camera in hand.  Occasionally he can be seen in front of the camera as well and he spanks pretty darn hard.  The cameraman recently did a shoot with me entitled "Radical Treatment Package".

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

My birthday in NYC

Just getting settled in back in Kansas after my trip to New York City.  It was fun but man am I wore out!

My birthday was on Wednesday, July 7th, which is when my plane landed in NYC.  A couple scene friends of mine picked me up at the airport and drove me out to Long Island where I stayed.  One of them owns a boat and took us out in it for the afternoon.  It has been years since I've been boating and I really missed it.  My brother and I used to spend summers with our grandparents camping at a lake in Kansas.  They had a 5th wheel camper and a fishing boat, so we'd spend alot of time on the water.  Then that evening we ate dinner at a little seafood restaurant.

Thursday was probably my busiest day with going out to Staten Island to shoot a video with Kelly Payne.  This was my first time meeting Ms. Payne and she is a very lovely lady and I look forward to being able to shoot with her again.  The scenario of the video was Guardian/charge and I was in trouble for staying out too late and missing classes.  She spanks really, really hard and it actually brought me to tears for the first time on camera.  This should make for a pretty good video and I look forward to seeing it sometime in September on her website.

After this, it was back to Long Island to relax a bit and cleanup the raccoon eyes from crying.  Then in the evening I was off to the city to meet with a very lovely gentleman for a session and dinner.  We ate at the Inakaya restaurant and it was very good, I had the 5-plate robata tasting menu.

Friday late morning I tagged along to pick up a very good friend of mine from the airport and drop her off where she was staying.  By the time we ate lunch and visited a little bit it was time to head out to Jersey to meet Tasha Lee & Yoni of Bum Rap Productions and Crimson Moon.  I hadn't met them yet and it was a good evening of talking and getting to know them and meeting their two sweet doggies.

On Saturday it was back into the city to meet up with a friend to talk business and "other" business.  Unfortunately the "other" (spanking) business precluded the regular business because there was so much I needed to address with her!  LOL

Saturday night brought me to the Scony party in Greenwich Village.  There was a very good turnout and I regret to saw that I was not able to spank everyone who needed to be because of the time contraints.  Four hours sure seems like a long time but it really isn't when there are so many naughty individuals that need to be taken care of.  It was a joy seeing friends and meeting new people.  Ms. Margaret organized a spanking game where several of the ladies (Tops, switches, and bottoms) sat lined up and male volunteers climbed across our laps while we were swatting them.  Our goal was to keep them from getting all the way across, but we weren't successful in stopping any of them, though one gentleman lost his pants (not our fault), and another came real close to not making it, stating, "I cannot move, I cannot move!".  This was a fun game and everyone in the room enjoyed watching and laughing.

Sunday was very relaxing and I spent the whole afternoon and evening with a bunch of friends and we had a barbecue.  This was a very welcome break from all the running around and it was very nice to spend time with a bunch of good friends from the spanking scene.

That evening I rode the train into the city and checked into a hotel right on Times Square so that I'd be ready for a session that I had scheduled for early Monday morning.  Monday came and went with me boarding the plane that evening to go back home.  It is always hard to leave NYC because I have so many scene friends there and always enjoy being with them.  But I get out that way so often that I know that I'll be seeing them again before too long.

Monday, July 5, 2010

Doing this and doing that...

I hope everyone had a happy and safe 4th of July.  I spent the day with my dad and aunt & uncle, having a barbecue and staying out of the way of idiots who have no business with the lighting up of explosives.  lol

I'll begin packing later this evening for my trip out East on Wednesday.  I'm going to be staying with a friend and doing a video shoot with Kelly Payne.  On Saturday evening I'll be attending the Scony party in NYC.  If you are able to make it out to the party and are interested in me spanking you, please introduce yourself early in the evening and let me know of your interest so I can make sure to spend some time with you.  I'm looking forward to meeting some new people and seeing old friends.

Saturday, July 3, 2010


Whew!  Alot of good things are going on for me lately.  Things that I've had in the works for awhile and are finally starting to come to fruition:  spanking video production, new website, and career change.  Life has been a whirlwind and I'm just trying to keep up, LOL.

June 18 - 24th marked my third trip out to L.A.  I planned the trip for seven days because I had high hopes of having multiple mainstream acting audition opportunities, but that was not the case.  Instead, I scoped out the area towns to get an idea on living expenses and such (in case I decide to move there).

Clare Fonda's cameraman took me on a driving tour of the various towns along the shoreline.  While we were in the Venice area he drove me a little out of the way to The Dominion because I had been curious about where it was located and what it was like.  Snow Mercy (who I've been in a couple videos with) works there as a Mistress.  I was thrilled to be able to meet Lady Hillary when we stopped in!  She happened to be there that afternoon and graciously took us on a tour of her place.  Lady Hillary is the owner & Headmistress of The Dominion, and she is a very lovely and caring lady.  It was apparent that she runs a professional, safe place for people to come and get their fantasies met.  If you are ever in the L.A. area, I'd encourage you to check them out.  They not only cater to the BDSM community but also recognize the spanking community and frequently have guests/clients in who desire spanking only sessions.  They have many themed rooms, including the Bettie Page and Detention rooms, which would work nicely for a spanking session.

I did a little bit of hotel hopping during my stay.  I used Priceline "name your own price" and got some good deals on very nice hotels.  One of my favorites was Hotel Palomar, located in Westwood.  It was a cute, stylish hotel.

I did a couple of shoots, one with the cameraman which is entitled "Radical Treatment Package".  The preview clip for this is available for view on SpankingTube, and the entire video will soon be made available for purchase on my website.

The second video I did is called "Tardy Backup Singer" where I play the role of the backup singer who has been assigned a bedtime by her tour manager because she keeps showing up late to her calls.  However I am up past bedtime goofing off and he catches me.  A preview clip will be made available in the near future.

I got to hang out with Clare a little bit and we toured the studio where EE5 will be shot in August.  I look forward to being in that film and getting to shoot in an actual studio - this will be cool!

On Tuesday, I spent some time with Chelsea Pfeiffer and her husband Larry.  Chelsea took me on a driving tour of Burbank and I have to admit that this town is becoming my favorite as far as a place that I could see myself living.  The town is cute and kind of has a small town feel to it.  They shot me in a video that is currently being aired on Good Spanking.  I enjoyed my time with them and also Chelsea's very good cooking!

Also got to go to Parris Kennedy's birthday party which was alot of fun.  They brought in an Elvis impersonator, and I was impressed with the dancing talents of Stacy Burke.  She got up and danced with Elvis and she was awesome!  It looked like it had been rehearsed, but it was totally impromptu.

Friday, July 2, 2010

Emotion adjustment

It is 1:30am in Kansas and I can't sleep.  Though it's not terribly unusual for me to be up at this time, however I am usually busy doing something because I'm a night person.  Right now though, I can't get focused on any particular thing to do.

I've been busy the last several days getting my new website up, editing video clips, posting them, etc.  Coming down off that flurry of activity has proved to be somewhat....I don't know....there are no words right now.  It is not that I don't have anything I need to do because I have plenty:  memorize a script, finish writing another script, write better content for my site, to name a few.  Seems like I'm experiencing lack of concentration followed by some other negative emotions that I can't quite put my finger on.

Normally my spanking involvement as a bottom only includes disciplinary spanking, but at times like this I have a curiosity of being spanked as a form of emotional release.  I remember reading an article some time ago on Jenni Mack's blog regarding this very thing and I have remained intrigued about the idea of it.  I've yet to experience it for myself as each time I crave this type of spanking it is usually under the circumstances that I am in right now...late at night (or should I say early in the morning) and with no one around.

I entitled this entry "Emotion adjustment" because this spanking that I crave reminds me in a way, of an attitude adjustment.  The difference would be that the proverbial attitude adjustment is a disciplinary spanking while I see an emotion adjustment might be more along the lines of just a straight spanking given by a caring person to help you reach the point of emotional release.

Does anyone have experiences with this type of spanking (giving or receiving) that they would like to share?  This is unchartered territory for me.  You can contact me privately if you'd rather not post publicly.  :)

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Video Clips available for purchase on my website!

I have uploaded the entire clip series of Exercise Punishment onto my video store at  The clips are priced between $2.99 - $5.99, depending on the clip running time.

In this series, I have missed my exercise sessions multiple times and my long-distance disciplinarian has decided it is time that I be spanked.  However, since he does not live close by, he has instructed me to self-spank.  Self-spanking is one difficult punishment to carry out because it involves inflicting pain on yourself and who wants to do that?!  But he makes sure that I am spanking myself hard and long enough so that I am well punished.  Throughout the clips, I speak of how the disciplinary relationship works for me, why I'm being spanked, and then talk about the punishment afterwards.  The spanking takes place over my shorts, bare thonged bottom, and bare bottom, using my leather paddle and wooden hairbrush.  After the spanking I am sent to kneel on the fireplace in time-out (while rubbing my sore bottom).

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Preview clips posted on SpankingTube!

As promised, two preview video clips have been posted to SpankingTube today!  I hope that you enjoy watching them.

Clip number one is entitled "Alicia Panettiere's Exercise Punishment".  In this video, I completed a self-spanking session that was assigned to me by my long distance disciplinarian for continually missing my exercise sessions.  The full-length DVD with a running time of 25 minutes will soon be made available for purchase on my website.

The second clip is entitled "Radical Treatment Package", and in this I play the role of a girl who has an addiction to pain pills and has sought out the help of a well recommended therapist.  Upon attending her first session she is subjected to this radical treatment.  The full length DVD has a running time of over 19 minutes and will also be made available for purchase shortly.

Producing Spanking Videos

I have recently begun producing my own spanking videos, as you probably know because I've made mention of a clips4sale store.  Well, the clips store is not up and running yet but I am going to be making my videos available on DVD via a store on my soon to be launched website.  I will also be posting short preview clips on Spanking Tube, so stay tuned!

Friday, June 25, 2010

Reflections - Florida Moonshine's "Tropical Beach Party"

Now that almost a month has passed since the FMS Beach Party, I guess I better finish up with the blog post that I had started, huh?

In all seriousness though, with the sad news of Irish Mike's passing, my thoughts are now on the time that I spent down in Florida at the beginning of this month.  I want to start by saying that I had the great pleasure to meet Mike while I was there and was able to spank him on multiple occasions.  He was a joy to be around and a true gentleman as everyone else's words seem to echo.  I know that I will greatly miss being able to see him again, and I send my condolences to all his family & friends.

FMS - Thursday 
The airline overbooked my flight so I was booted and had to wait in the airport for 6 hours until I could get on a different flight.  Once I finally arrived in Tampa, my roomie, Sassy, picked me up from the airport and we drove out to the hotel and checked in.  Then her and I wandered around the hotel for a bit and then grabbed dinner at the patio restaurant.  We then made it upstairs to the suite where they were having an informal get-together, and it didn't take long before I was spanking a few people.  I saw a couple familiar faces but met a whole lot of new people.  Even though I was already tired I was glad that I made myself go because it proved to be a very good start to the weekend.

FMS - Friday
I slept in until noon.  Went to the vendor fair that evening and browsed the booths that were set up.  Got to meet John of Leather Thorn Paddles, whom I'd purchased a couple implements from online.  There were many different booths set up, from implements, books, undies, and jewelry.  We then played an ice breaker game where we had to ask people if they could answer questions on our list and then we paid up by giving or receiving 5 swats, and I was on the "giving" end.  After this, John presented me with a new leather paddle (pictured here)!  He gave me a couple swats with it and this sucker freakin' hurts!  I met with a gentleman who'd requested a private discipline session with me, and it was amazing how when I was scolding him I felt like I could just go right into my own bottom headspace.  I suppose maybe that meant that I was doing a good job?  That's definitely the first that has happened to me while I have Topped.  There were suite parties on into the night where I was able to Top several individuals and also was taken in hand by Craig Aych for a little bottom session which was very much enjoyed.  

FMS - Saturday
I had to get up bright and early so that I could attend the Governess Gala at 10:30am...Yes, this is early for me, haha!  There were quite a few female Tops who showed out to participate so we had to share space but we made it work.  This was a fun time for me because I was able to meet many bottoms in a short amount of time because this was pretty fast paced.  I had lunch with a friend at the patio restaurant, they served pretty good food because I ate there quite a bit.  Then I met with another gentleman for a private session that afternoon before attending the ice cream social.  Dinner was held that evening and I got dressed up a bit for that.  The food was good and then we had door prizes and the spanking trivia game with lots of laughs.  More suite parties this evening and I had the pleasure of Topping many more individuals.  I also felt that I just had to ask Headmaster Tony to cane me because, well, he's Headmaster Tony!  So of course he did and it was fun.

FMS - Sunday
I slept in once again and did not make it to the CP Court but I hear that it was a blast for all those who went.  I had a wonderful session with Jenni Mack that afternoon and we were able to visit a little bit afterwards which was really nice.  The rest of the day was pretty leisurely for me and the group of us that was still around that evening car pooled over to a seafood restaurant that sat right on the beach.  This was the first time that I'd ever eaten with the beach right under my feet.  Back at the hotel I took a stroll on the beach with a gentleman who I've known awhile from out East and we both caught a few moments to spank each other out in the open, so now we can each say we've been spanked on a beach.  Later on I was able to co-Top a friend of mine and get some laughs in during the session.  Co-Topping is an opportunity that I don't have very often but I sure enjoy it!  Oh, and I also broke an implement over someone's bottom this day.  I didn't think I spanked with enough force to do such a thing, but I kept the broken implement as a souvenir, weird I know- haha!

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Happy Father's Day

Happy Father's Day to all of you dad's out there!  

I want to give a special thanks to those who provide a fatherly influence to those of us in the spanking world who crave it.  There are so many individuals who did not get proper parenting from their real dad, including myself.  

Speaking from my own heart, there are a couple of male Tops in my life that have said and done things to me that have sort of provided a "re-parenting" experience.  Such things like:  stern words of correction, hugs, tucking me into bed, encouragement, doling out discipline when it is necessary, etc, etc, etc...  Many things may seem insignificant, but can be very meaningful and healing to the one on the receiving end.  

Not every Top has the knack of being fatherly (or motherly), and not everyone desires to be such.  It takes a special personality or skill set (maybe?), to be parental in your dealings with the bottoms in your life, and not everyone is skilled at it.

I just want to take this opportunity to thank the ones in my life who have functioned in this fatherly role to me at various times and to various degrees.  Thank you from the very bottom of my heart for doing & saying the things that you do.  It has meant so much to me and fulfilled these longings in my heart that I NEVER thought would be fulfilled.


Wednesday, June 16, 2010


These last couple of weeks have been all about procrastination for me!  I planned to get up a post about my experiences at Florida Moonshine...Did that happen?  Nope.  Also planned to finish up with my website and get it launched...another nada.  BUT, I have been productive nonetheless.  I finished designing my step-dad's website and launched it, and I've done other odds and ins that needed to be done.

Now it is off to L.A. tomorrow afternoon.  I'll be there for a week and the plan is to shoot a couple of spanking videos and explore the mainstream acting scene a little bit.  Much of this trip will be spent simply networking, getting myself "out there", and possibly finding an agent.  I have my fingers crossed that I'll have some good opportunities that will come out of this trip.

I may even be able to snatch up some time on the plane rides to work on my website some more.  I'm designing it myself, with no school whatsoever, just self-taught from various tools on the internet.  If you are curious of what the general design might look like you can visit my "under construction" website at

Sunday, May 30, 2010

Bratting - Where is the line?

I just read a post that Craig Aych put on his blog, "Dark Musing", a couple days ago and it sparked some of my own thoughts.

Craig writes:
I hate bratting. I don't hate intelligent arguments, the egging-on of individuals, a good bit of passive/aggressive behavior in the name of fun, but I hate bratting. "What's the difference?" you whine, stamping a foot down like Clever Hans. The difference is very clear to me. Bratting is this whiny, childlike annoyance. I don't think it's very becoming on grown women. Further, I have had four children, now mostly grown up. Over the last 23 years I've heard plenty of whining. I don't want to pay to fly across the country to be with a bunch of adults to hear more childish, lip-pouting Peewee Herman screeches. Does that make me a bad person?  As stated above, I love good mental sparring, witty repartee and some good old fashioned verbal abuse, all in the name of a fun scene. Which is different than bratting. Make a mental note.  link to article
When I first came into the spanking community, I was strictly a bottom who had an intense craving for loving, caring, and strict discipline from a parental-type authority figure.  But I had one heck of a time developing a balance between Alicia the normal vanilla person and Alicia the bottom who wanted to misbehave to earn a spanking.

I would enter into a spanking chat room and brat relentlessly like there was no tomorrow.  But to give myself a little bit of credit, I did limit my bratting to just those tops who I was willing to consent and submit to.  I seemed to unconsciously attempt to hog the attention of certain individuals to goad them into scolding or spanking me, but what I didn't realize at the time was two-fold:

1)  Tops aren't always "on" - They don't always feel like being in their top mode all the time.  There are moments when they just want to hang out and observe the conversations and goings ons and just sit back and have a good time.

2)  Tops desire to top more than just one person - If I hog their attention then they are unable to give other bottoms a piece of their top side.  This was inconsiderate, even though I didn't mean for it to be.

Mind you, I didn't recognize these things until something like months after the fact and what really helped me to see it clearly was becoming a top myself.  I also have seen and experienced other bottoms doing similar things that I did, and have been asked questions by individuals intent on being able to discern for themselves what the appropriate balance and boundaries are to bratting.

A common statement that I hear from new bottoms is:  I want to do something to get into trouble, but I don't want to get in "real trouble" and have the Top mad at me.  I have made this statement on numerous occasions myself.  There are alot of bottoms who require a valid reason for a spanking and without one the spanking would mean nothing to them.  Many don't go for role play so they need to have some kind of avenue to create a reason to be punished.

I will attempt to explain and maybe it will help you understand...

Consider who the top is - What is their personality?  What are their likes & dislikes when it comes to scene related things?  If you cannot answer these questions, then I would advise to put a halt to your bratting and focus your attentions first on getting to know the top.  Engage in some conversation with him or her whether that be via phone, email, IM, or in-person.  Just as you would expect a top to know your limits physically, you need to get to know that top's bratting limits.

The majority of tops that I have bottomed to don't care all that much for bratting, just as Craig has written.  There are some who will tolerate it to various extents, but the key word here is "tolerate".  Do any of us really want to do something that causes another person to have to tolerate it, or do we want to relate in such a way that makes a scene pleasurable for both individuals?  So it will take some upfront communication for you to identify those who enjoy being bratted to.  I can assure you that they are out there, you'll just need to take the time to figure out which ones they are.

Is it age-play? - Take for instance whining, stomping feet, pouting, etc.  Are these behaviors that adults usually partake in, or is it more acceptable (or should I say expected) from a child?  Consensual adult discipline spanking is not age-play.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with age-play and it is often combined with spanking by those who enjoy it.  But the truth is that age-play is a whole separate fetish in and of itself and it is best that you talk with the person you are bottoming to in order to determine if this is a fetish of their's as well.

Personally, I enjoy age-play and can very easily regress in age when I'm being scolded and spanked.     But I try to be conscious of this fact and limit it when bottoming to someone who does not share this fetish.

Encourage the top to use safe words - Just like tops will say, they cannot read our minds when it comes to the physical side of spanking.  They encourage bottoms to use safe words if they need to have the intensity adjusted.  I take this one more step when I visit with those that bottom to me.  I let them know that if their bratting crosses the line with me I will use a safe word so that it catches their attention and lets them know that they've gone over the boundary and need to reel it in so that we can both enjoy the scene.  If there is no method in place to let a bottom know this then they will continue on, assuming that it doesn't bother you.  But by all means don't let these safe words replace the much needed communication before hand.  A top should communicate these boundaries to you in advance, and if they have not, then it becomes your responsibility to ask them.

Confess real-life misbehaviors - This is an option for those who don't mind baring their soul and being punished for real offenses they have committed.  This could be anywhere from minor things such as not eating your fruits and veggies,  clear up to being physically abusive to someone in your life, and beyond.  It takes a huge level of trust to cross over into the real-life issues, but for many people the rewards are well worth the risks.  But of course, this is not for everyone.

Do not brat to someone you are unwilling to give your consent to - This one is a biggie.  If you brat off to a Top that you are not going to allow to spank you it is sending them mixed signals.  It is like dangling a nice juicy steak in front of a dog but not allowing them to eat it.  Just don't do it.

General ideas when "bratting"- Never be rude.  Think of it more along the lines of playful teasing that you would engage in with anybody in your life.  Always be respectful.  Be yourself and don't try to force brattiness.  If you are naturally a more quiet, laid back person then go with it.  On the other hand, if you are normally outspoken and ornery, then do as you normally would in social situations in the vanilla world.  If you want to know how to let a top know that you'd like to be spanked and can only be spanked with good reason, then talk to them and see what would work best for the two of you.  No two tops are alike, and the key to having successful spanking scenes and ongoing relationships with the tops that you enjoy is COMMUNICATION.  Before, during, and after a scene, and It's worth saying again - Neither Tops or bottoms can read minds.

So I hope you've enjoyed reading my thoughts, opionions, and suggestions, and hopefully something I have said here will help you make more sense of this topic as it relates to you and your unique ways.  Bratting can be a very fine it well.  If anything helps please drop me a line because I'd love to hear about it.   :)

Have a good one,