Sunday, August 29, 2010

Safewords during a punishment spanking

We all seem to come to a consensus when it comes to the use of safewords for non-disciplinary spankings. Generally everyone agrees that there should be safewords available for playful, sensual, and roleplay scenes, but when it comes to real-life punishment spankings there is a, for lack of a better word, 'debate' over whether it is acceptable to allow the bottom/spankee the use of safewords.

As most of you know, I have a disciplinarian who punishes me for real-life issues, and then as a professional Top, I frequently see people for real punishment issues.  Here is where I stand in this "great debate":

I believe in the availability of safewords at all times, and here is why.  When it comes to a true punishment spanking, there has to be trust with both the Top and bottom.  The Top must trust the bottom that a safeword will only be used if and only if the bottom is in some sort of danger, be it physical, mental, or emotional.  They have to know that the bottom will take the punishment seriously and not just safeword to get out of it if it hurts too much.

The bottom has to trust that the Top will not cause any lasting damage and that the Top has the best view of what is going on with the spankee's bottom.  Based upon what has been negotiated in the disciplinary relationship ahead of time, say that bruises are ok but broken skin is a hard limit.  The bottom must trust that the Top has the best view of their backside and he/she will stop or adjust if it becomes apparent that the skin is getting ready to break.  I don't believe that a hard-limit should ever be crossed, even for a punishment spanking.

Saturday, August 14, 2010

Poll - Kate Winslet look-alike?


How about a fun poll?  I've been told here and there by random people that I resemble Kate Winslet.  I'm not sure that I really see it myself, so I thought it'd be fun to do a side-by-side comparison and take a vote.  What do you think?  Place your vote to the left of this posting.  :)

Thursday, August 12, 2010

August L.A. Trip

My L.A. trip is winding down and I fly back home tomorrow evening.

Photo courtesy of Clare Fonda

I shot for 3 of Clare Fonda's sites while I was out here: Spanked Sweeties, Girl Spanks Girl, and My Spanking Roommate. Exclusive Education 5 will begin airing the first week in September on Girl Spanks Girl. In this epic film, I was the new teacher who spanked all the girls along with Lana & Clare Fonda, then at the end the girls get their revenge on us!

Photo courtesy of Clare Fonda

I also held a few professional discipline sessions. For those who don't know, I began accepting applications from people interested in me Topping them, and have been conducting professional sessions since January. What I enjoy most about this is I can meet with people who are not able to make it to spanking events for what ever reason, and I like to fulfill their spanking fantasies (as long as it is non-sexual). Click here to read more about my sessions, and apply for a session here.

Also, with the help of The Camera Man, I was able to get my video clips compressed so that they will upload onto clips4sale, so this will soon be another venue that you will have to purchase my clips.  I just need to do some boring paperwork type stuff with that site and then I will be able to accept orders.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

Cursing & other unladylike language

Cursing is one of the things that my disciplinarian is working with me about. It wasn't really an issue that I felt needed to be addressed in our relationship, but he decided that it needed to be and added it to my list of rules. I've been getting better and better at this, especially since I resigned from my old job a couple of months back. I found that the somewhat "hostile" work environment was causing me to be really angry and cursing was an outlet that I used to relieve some of the agitation that I was feeling. Now that the agitant is gone, I find that I only curse when stupid stuff happens, such as my stepping on the bottom of my strapless dress and nearly ripping it off myself on the way to the mailbox. My neighbors probably would have enjoyed that one but I didn't care to give them a show.

Last night, I used some words that I didn't really think of as curse words, but my disciplinarian thought otherwise. I used the word "crap" and "pissed off" while talking with him and boy did I catch it for that. He made it clear to me that those were not such things that should be uttered from the mouth of a lady and that I am not to use those words again. As punishment, I had to turn on my webcam for a punishment self-spanking, spend 15 minutes in the corner, and was assigned an essay to write about how unladylike cursing is and to make a list of words to use instead.

I know that soap will be in my future if I curse again, and I absolutely HATE soap. So much so that it is pretty near to being a hard limit for me, but not quite. This evening I have to get busy on my essay because it is due to be turned in before I go to bed.